Jenaya here. I hope you’re having a great day! So today, I am interviewing one of my favorite friends, Terri Harding. I’ve forgotten how long we have been friends, but it was before she procreated and was even married! She is a newly published author of a book! We talk about her writing process, her vision for her story, marriage (cuz I’m hopelessly single and she’s been married for over 10 years which is basically 100 years), being a mom, and being a Black woman in 2020.
Check out our chat and buy her book! Support Black woman authors!
I just finished reading a book that I need to talk about. Here it is: “Temple of My Familiar” by Alice Walker. It’s the story of Black women in South America living. The part that caught my eyes and ears and heart was how she weaved the Black woman’s sexuality into the narrative and normalized it. I was slightly obsessed. She talked about the wetness between our thighs, our soft bellies and strong legs, our scent enticing men and us having the choice and options to pursue or not to pursue, be pursued or not. Ugh, just so much great.
Next, I talk about homework for Chinese students. I teach in China and have been taking pictures of desks here in China. It seems mundane, but I love to capture everyday things that tell stories. Here, I’m slightly obsessed with desks.
Last, it’s Minority Mental Health Month and I encourage the white people to Sshhh! (Be quiet) and for Black people to find our voice and seek the help we need to find balance in our volatile contexts.
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On today’s episode, I answer a question I received from Bekah from Denver. What ought we do and think about as we white parents choose schools for their kids to attend?
Good one! Listen for the following: —Addressing whiteness in your school-age kids will encourage them to not grow up to be Karens and Todds. —Your kid will be just fine statistically in under/well-performing schools because you have the means to supplement in schools that are lacking in certain areas. —Teach your kid Connor that Black or non-white does not equal bad/lazy
Lastly, treat yourself to extra coconut cream if you’re having a bad day! That’s my vegan tip for you this week 🙂
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On today’s episode, I talk about what white people did to make me mad this week. In my podcast, I’m not going to spend too much time giving the background on all these issues, but I will give you enough context to help y’all see how whiteness deeply impacts and continues to now allow space for non-white bodies and minds to breathe. And this week, I’m talking about the statues.
Also, to ground the conversation, I share about the difference between white people and white people. And I give my definition of “caucastic amnesia.” Caucastic amnesia is a term I created that explains how whiteness makes folks (usually white people) forget or distort their memory of actual truth and history. It’s super dangerous and has long-lasting ramifications in every facet of life.
Next, Dragon Boat Festival. I napped through it and it was cancelled last minute so I didn’t feel too bad. It’s on my bucket list of things to do whilst in China and this is the second year I’ve missed it! Ugh. But here is the glutinous rice pyramid wrapped in string and a link to some info on the story.
Hey good people! I’m changing my podcast a bit and centering it on all things me! But there is space for you too! I have way too many interests and there are WAY too many things happening in this world to have a solo focus. So now I will have a plethora of foci and it will be all things that I love to think, talk about, and conversate (Yes I said it) about. Join me on the journey.
Current Black Author Book: The Temple of My Familiar by Alice Walker.
“Topics I may or may not cover in any given podcast episode”
Book I’m reading
Reflection on the week
Traveling the world
Dope People I know
Ask me a question!
Get ready for a fun adventure! Stay tuned for more episodes.
Hey guys! The Rona is about over for me here in China and I’m DEVASTATED cuz I’ve LOVED this Rona season! In this episode, I talk about how I have not only survived, but thrived. Lots of folks have asked me how and now I’m spilling the beans.
Highlights: Self-Care During the ‘Rona Realizations What have I been doing? Answer: IOENO (I don’t even know) Suggestions for you and y’all
My suggestions for you and y’all as you brave this intense and unexpected time:
Read—schedule it. I didn’t do this and now I’m sad. Own your feelings. If you feel shitty, say it and be it. If you feel like superwoman/man/gender-non-conforming, say it and be it. Call your people. Don’t call the people who aren’t your people. Laugh at the memes. They really are hilarious. Rest. We will probably and hopefully never ever have this time to rest ever again. Exercise. I run every other day unless I’m bleeding. It’s necessary. I’m slower than molasses and that’s fine Go outside. Everyday. Eat well. (I’ve been vegan and unfortunately have loved it and feel amazing. Try that maybe?)
Plan your pivot. Whatever you’ve been thinking and saying you want to do and change..plan it. And start to implement it. Reevaluate those things that you’ve had to give up during this time. Be thankful for the purge.
I spent time chatting with Lawrence right when the Coronavirus shenanigans began. We chatted about all things travel, eating, trying to convince people to travel, and incorporating the global perspective into future plans. He’s great and shared that he would love to hear from you.
Follow him… Instagram: @furcoatlorenzo Email: email@example.com YouTube: Black Dragon in China
The first three pictures are in Thailand (Bangkok, Phuket, Pattaya) and the last four are in China(Beijing, Xi’an).
I am 32 years old and in my 9th year teaching, currently as an English Language Development specialist in a rural district outside of Denver. I’ve been married to my husband for 11 years, and we have 2 boys (aged 7 and 5).
When I’m not teaching I enjoy reading, sewing Harry Potter inspired quilts and clothes, and spending time with the family.
I don’t have any hocks to share, but people are more than welcome to follow me on Twitter (@ShelbyReadsAlot) and Instagram (@shelbyreadsbooks), however you will be bombarded with pictures of my kids, Harry Potter Memes, and my cat being weird.
Countries I’ve visited: Australia NewZealand Mexico Honduras Belize Austria Germany Switzerland Lichtenstein Canada
And I’m going to Ireland, Scotland, and England July 2021.
Follow her: Twitter (@ShelbyReadsAlot) and Instagram (@shelbyreadsbooks)
Thanks for sharing your story on the internet waves with me!
Food is important and I think about it often. When you’re abroad, you are away from all the things you are most familiar with and the one thing above most, if not all others, that is most jarring is what/how/when one fills their belly.
In this episode, I am sharing my big eating change from dining exclusive in restaurants to dining in my tiny home. In an effort to make my apartment my home (thanks therapy), I will be prioritizing how I fill my belly. This is an absolute need and I’m excited to be on this journey. I knew it would eventually come and I can officially say that the time is now here!
Basically, I needed to do this transition to
—become more settled in my country
—have more control in what I eat
—reach my health/weight goals and push through my plateau
—avoid having allergy issues from oil
On the Instagram, I will be posting my progress and meals and such periodically. It has been about 8 days so far and my body and mind have changed for the better.
Take a moment this week to think about preparing for hard work by first doing hard work. Big changes are difficult, but when you have your ‘why’ in place, it becomes much easier. Second, let’s reflect on what we are putting into our bodies. I’m focusing on food for now and then will be working on mental and emotional food later.
Follow #MelanatedStamps on Instagram and Facebook. Thanks for listening. Share with your friends. Inbox me if you want to be interviewed and showcased on my podcast. I’m ALWAYS looking for Black Americans who have an abroad story!
Not to toot my own horn, but I’m amazing at setting goals. I’ve been setting them for over 20 years now and I now have a pretty high percentage of success in reaching them. In this episode, I’ll be talking about my goals for living and working abroad. I’ll also be talking about how my goals have morphed over the years and some tips for you on setting your own goals. Take a listen, share with your friends, schedule an interview with me, and following on Insta/Facebook @MelanatedStamps!